At first I was going to apologize for including so many images in this post…….but then I thought NO! I want you to REALLY feel like you were there, feel the emotion and the excitement that I felt while being in that room but also….I want you to notice the parents faces as they welcome their new baby boy into their family after 6 LONG years of waiting. Because this is really what this all about….the journey of surrogacy. There was sorrow, there was happiness, tears of joy, pain, heartache and unmeasurable happiness among a million other emotions along the way. Every single day was worth it to bring my child into the world. Surrogacy is an amazing process for anyone who for whatever reason either cannot or chooses not to carry their own child. Reading this step-by-step guide to surrogacy will put anyone who is considering this process minds at ease. This day was 6 years in the making at failed attempts and miscarriages……and as I stood in that room and could hide behind my camera, I wiped away a few tears of my own.
In my very first post when I introduced that I was documenting this journey I reflected what it was like for me driving to the very first appointment to meet both of the families. I thought about it the whole way there…..trying to imagine what it might feel like. Thinking in my mind how my Mom had me when she was barely 16 and that (lets face it) I was an accident-or in other terms, an unplanned pregnancy, a surprise of sorts. THEN on the other end of the pregnancy spectrum, there are parents who are struggling to have their own surprises who have pain stakingly tried every avenue medically possible to have families of their own. I was given the rare opportunity to document the surrogacy journey……..it puts a lot of things into perspective for me. How some people simply take for granted the fact that they can have children so easily and do so without any proper planning. There are couples in this world that would trade places with you in a heart beat! I can’t speak for them but I can tell you being born to a teenage Mom, I see things from a whole other prospective. On days like this, I wish I were a writer so that I could appropriately articulate what it was like to be there and experience this as a third-party. I don’t feel like any words could accurately describe what it was like……
I arrived at the hospital around 9:30 am. We were playing the “hurry up and wait game”….but after 6 and half hours of labor, baby Jack arrived at 5pm. Even though I was invited to be there in order document the days events, I still struggled a bit with the fine line between “documenting” and giving them their privacy. We had the conversation ahead of time but I certainly wanted to be respectful of both families while accurately photographing the day. Everyone was so wonderful including the nurses (Hi Susan!!). The energy was high and so were the nerves….but man oh man, was it exciting!
These images were taken right as I arrived. Surrogate Mom (Missy) and Birth Parents (Mom and Dad). And the waiting begins….
It was time to push…..and the nervousness in the room was at an all time high.
The two above images were taken the moment baby Jack were born. I could hardly see through the tears and I prayed that these came out clear. 6 long years they waited for this moment!
He had the quietest little cry!
Mom get’s to meet baby Jack!
Baby Jack’s little feet covered in ink from the birth certificate.
I love these two images. The top image is Mom comforting Missy. Missy was relieved that everything went smoothly, that baby was healthy and Mom and Dad finally had their family! The other images if the first time Mom gets to hold baby Jack. 🙂
This image melts my heart. Baby Jack meets surrogate Missy while in the arms of his Mom! This image makes my heart smile! THIS is what this was all about! WHAT a GIFT!
At this point, I just couldn’t control my emotions! Mom gives baby skin to skin contact…..Mommy and Son bonding time!
This image is during the first few moments of Little Man meeting his little brother for the first time! 🙂
I have no words……
Miracles DO happen! Can you feel the love??
Interested in reading about the earlier stages of the surrogate story from Missy’s point of view, visit her blog here.
I just wanted to take a minute to sincerely thank both families involved….not only for inviting me into your lives and sharing such intimate moments but for having the trust in me! This experience has given me a first hand experience of selflessness!